fitformyprinces

Living healthy as a busy Mom with two little boys

Can’t is a choice August 9, 2012

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 10:42 pm

My Dad told me once that having children was a very humbling experience, because you get frustrated with how they are behaving and then realize that those negative traits came from yourself.  I didn’t quite get it at the time since I was a very young adult when he said them, however now that I have kids of my own I can definitely see the wisdom in those words.

I have struggled for years with the “I can’ts”  I can’t do this, I can’t do that.  Ironically, not on major stuff.  I’ll set really lofty goals for myself and work hard to achieve them (like running that marathon back in 2007).  But my inner demon will convince me on smaller things that I can’t do it and so I stop.

Each morning the boys and I take the dog on a walk.  Well, really it’s more me taking everyone on a walk.  The boys are strapped in the double jogging stroller and I’m also holding onto the dog’s leash when we go.  Well on this particular morning we were about 4 blocks from my in-laws house when it started to rain.  I started heading back once it started to drizzle and when that got heavier I started to run.  I haven’t run at all since I finished C25K last fall and since the weight has come back on it’s not exactly an easy task to do while pushing about 90 pounds in the stoller (30 pounds of stroller, 40 pounds of “C”, and 20 pounds of “B”).  I made it about 2 blocks before I needed a breather.  Once I started walking, “C” said, “Run, Mommy!” and I said “I can’t”.  Then I realized what I had done and I knew that was not a legacy I wanted to pass onto my son so I told him that Mommy was wrong, that can’t was a choice and I started running again and didn’t stop until I made it to the driveway.

See I had two options that morning, (1) believe the ‘can’t’ and keep walking or (2) do it and show the ‘can’t’ who’s boss.  I choose #2.  And hopefully through my lead, my children will choose 2 also.

 

A lesson to pass on….. August 1, 2012

Filed under: General musings,Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 11:38 pm

I’ve been very blessed in my life to never really know hunger.  Now, I know that a lot of that is due to sacrifices made by my parents to ensure my needs were met.  I know my Mom has mentioned that when we were really little that she had to sell things to make ends meet.  I would never say that my childhood was privileged from a financial point of view, but I’d argue that the poor in America are substantially better off than in the rest of the world.

I remember visiting my Grandparents when I was really young and Grandma would fill our plates with spaghetti.  It didn’t matter that my sister and I were 4 and 2 years old.  We got a full plate just like all the adults….and we were expected to finish it too.  My Grandma insisted that our plates be cleaned before we could get up.  So we finished.  And my 2 year old sister promptly vomited the spaghetti up onto the floor.  Her tiny stomach could just not handle that much food.

Too often, we teach our children that they must clean their plates before they can leave the table or have dessert.  Now I get the point.  I have a devious persistent 3 year old who would like nothing more than to eat dessert and no ‘real’ food.  And I find myself falling into the same trap alot by insisting that he finish his main course before moving onto eat a fruit snack or ice cream or something like that.

One thing I’ve learned along the way is that it’s ok to throw something away.  I mean, would you rather the junk be in the garbage or in your body?  Don’t get me wrong, as a stay-at-home Mom finances are much tighter than they were when I was working and I’m not wasteful with food at all.  But, if I pull something out to eat and a partial serving satisfies,  it is ok for me to toss the rest (assuming I can’t salvage it to keep for later).

Tonight I started teaching that lesson to ‘C’.  I took the boys to our local county fair tonight and after C went on a lot of fun rides he was wanting ice cream (and why not).  So being the indulging loving Mom that I am, I bought a single scoop of vanilla with rainbow sprinkles (the most important part).  I stood there with the baby on my back for over 20 minutes as he slowly ate this scoop of ice cream.  Then I told him he had 10 minutes left and he would have to throw out whatever he didn’t finish.  To my surprise, 5 minutes later (and only half the cup eaten) he declared that he was all done, got up, and put the bowl in the trash.  I was so proud of my little guy.  I’m hoping that he can remember this so that he won’t face the same weight issues in his life that I have faced so far.

 

Back in the swing of things September 24, 2011

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 4:19 pm

We went out of town this past week.  My sister-in-law became a U.S. citizen on Tuesday so we wanted to be there to support her, and to show our boys what an honor and privilege it is to be a citizen here.  Once the ceremony was over we went up to my in-law’s to have the boys visit my Mother-in-law in the rehab center.  She is doing much better, but she does have a long way to go. 

While we were gone I had intended to continue my workouts, but it was much harder to actually fit it in while completely out of my home.  I ran on the treadmill at the hotel Tuesday morning but nothing else (unless you count walking around the Smithsonian museum) until today.  I also didn’t count any calories and I did indulge in some chocolate and a lot of eating out. 

The net result is that I gained a pound.  But I also gained a new-found appreciation for how eating right and exercising makes me feel.  While I was not working out or counting calories I felt sluggish and just blah.  I definitely feel better and have more energy when I work out and want to continue feeling that way.  Having that week off was such a good thing for my continued motivation.

 

I think I can, I think I can August 6, 2011

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 7:37 pm

I saw a great quote today while skimming through my Facebook news feed this morning.

People who say you “can’t,” are afraid that you “might.” When you “do,” it intimidates them as they wonder if they “could.”

 So simple yet so profound.  Too often we live down to others’ expectations of us instead of pushing boundaries and being our best.  Loved ones may think they’re cautioning you out of concern, but sub-consciously they’re worried that you will succeed, grow emotionally, and not need them anymore. 

This is precisely why you need to set goals for YOU and not for anyone else.  I had a loved one (who’s identity shall remain a mystery) tell me I couldn’t run a marathon when I mentioned that I was considering it.  Well that was all I needed.  I fed off that doubt and proudly proved that loved one wrong when I completed the Las Vegas Marathon just 8 days after turning 30. 

Moral of the story … turn any negativity around you into something positive.  That way it helps propel you to achieve your goals instead of weighing you down.

 

 

Weight is just a number….. August 4, 2011

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 7:39 pm

Cliche, but true.  A number on the scale doesn’t take frame size, body fat percentages, or muscle toning into account.  For ladies of the right age it also doesn’t give you any ‘credit’ for that time of the month either.  Yet so many people are tied to that scale and the number on it.  No loss, or *gasp*, a gain and they get all depressed and give up. 

While I do watch the scale, I try to put more stock in non-scale victories.  Currently I’m weighing and taking measurements every 10 days while doing the 60-Day Slimdown.  Today is not a measurement day, but I’m celebrating a Non-Scale Victory today, nonetheless.  Today while doing the Shed 5 Fast video I was doing knee repeaters and noticed that my capris were starting to slip down my hips.  They have an adjustable waist, but it was tied to fit my ‘old’ waist.  Time to get that knot undone so I can tie it to fit my waist now.

 

 

Got motivation? July 21, 2011

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 4:56 pm

I belong to a Facebook group of other young Moms (yes, I’m 33 and still consider myself young) who are doing the 60-day slimdown program I’m partipating in.  A recent series of posts have come from people asking for help getting motivated. 

So that begs the question.  What is motivating me?  Well since I’m 33 let’s see if I can come up with 33 motivations.

  1. Seeing my boys grow up into men.
  2. Being able to play with my active children.
  3. Being able to play with my potential future grandchildren.
  4. My parents – they have lost about 100 pounds between the 2 of them since the beginning of the year.
  5. My sister – she’s always been slim so she’s proof that my “it’s in my genes” excuse is just that … an excuse.
  6. Looking great in a pair of skinny jeans.
  7. Feeling good about the body I see in the mirror.
  8. Knowing that if I get pregnant again that my weight will be low enough at the start that the scale will never go over 200 again.
  9. Completing the couch to 5K program.
  10. I remember how fantastic I felt when I weighed much less.
  11. Being a better Mommy (exercise gives me more patience with my kids)
  12. Modeling for my boys what a healthy lifestyle looks like.
  13. Not feeling self conscious in a bathing suit.
  14. Liking the body that looks back at me in the mirror.
  15. Being out of breath because I just worked out hard, not because I just walked up a flight of stairs.
  16. To get my wedding/engagement rings back on my finger.
  17. Being able to run another half marathon.
  18. Having enough energy at the end of the day to play hard when my boys when I get home from work instead of sitting us all in front of the tv for a movie so I can “rest”.
  19. I’ve held onto my skinny clothes, so wearing them again would be fabulous.
  20. Having C and B look at pictures when they’re older and be surprised at how fat Mommy was (meaning they have no personal recollection of my being anything other than fit).
  21. Not having a heart attack in my 40’s like my Dad did.
  22. Not having a stroke in my 60’s like my Grandparents did.
  23. Being able to show my friends who have gained so much weight with their pregnancies (and struggled to lose/didn’t lose it) that you CAN do it. 
  24. Being able to do a set of REAL push-ups, not just ‘girl’ ones.
  25. Weighing LESS than I did in high school (was a size 12-14 back then).
  26. Buying (and wearing) clothes in single digit sizes.
  27. Being fit enough to go hiking in the beautiful nearby Smoky Mountains.
  28. Not having my body jiggle while I do jumping moves.
  29. Losing the big belly so I can properly do a burpee.
  30. Being every bit as strong as my husband.
  31. Living a long life, and having as few years when I’m in poor health as possible.  I mean, cuz what’s the point in living to 100 if you feel like garbage for the last 40 of them?
  32. Not having my boys have to worry about my having a sudden heart attack or stroke (at least not until they are older men themselves).
  33. Working out and having C some and mimic my moves.  He may be 2 1/2, but he’s not too young to start working out himself. 

I know that some of these may appear to be more “goals” than motivations to some, but I’m of the belief that goals can be motivating.   Otherwise why make them?

Oh, and for those who know me in real life and were at my wedding, here is the explanation about why I’m not able to wear my wedding/engagement rings.  Yes, when I got married back in 2005 I weighed 210 pounds vs the 192 I weighed in at a couple days ago.  But, my rings are not currently at their original size.  When I lost 70 pounds in 2007 I had the rings resized because they fell off my fingers one day.  So my rings are much smaller than my current fingers.  I haven’t had my rings on since the second trimester of my pregnancy with C (took them off in August 2008).  It would be nice to be able to wear my beautiful diamond again.