fitformyprinces

Living healthy as a busy Mom with two little boys

Goodnight my angels …. August 30, 2012

Filed under: General musings — fitformyprinces @ 10:20 pm

I know that this is a healthy lifestyle blog, but this post will deviate from that theme.  But, I feel it’s something I need to write.

Back in May we were so very excited to hear that my brother-in-law and his wife were going to have a baby.  Actually two babies….identical twins.  Any birth is something to celebrate, however, these babies would be the only souls on earth to call me Aunt and my boys’ Cousin.  I was even more excited because this was right before I was to move up here with the boys so we would be here when they were born in December.  We’d be here to watch her belly grow, be here to throw a baby shower, and be here right after the birth so I could breathe in all their newborn deliciousness.

I was even more excited about a month ago when they found out that the babies were going to be boys.  Awesome …. two more little boys in the family.  I imagined the family get-togethers with four little boys running around playing.

Everyday, I fell more in love with them and I was so excited to meet my nephews.

Well, as I’m sure you can already guess, we heard this morning that those sweet boys didn’t make it.  We are all heartbroken over it.  None more than my brother-in-law and his wife.  I cannot even fathom the pain they are feeling.  Especially her.  There is just something about being a Mommy and seeing ultrasounds of the life growing inside of you, and ultimately feeling them move around.  You can’t help but fall in love with them.  They are a part of you.  And now, because she was too far along for a DNC, she has to have labor induced so that she can ‘birth’ the two dead babies.  I’ve done it twice, labor is no fun.  But you go through it, because you get the sweet reward of your baby at the end.

I haven’t even really been able to properly cry for these little guys yet, because I’ve been trying to stay strong for my in-laws who are completely devastated by the news.  I have listened to a few songs that help me keep some perspective when bad things happen.  Music has always been very therapeutic for me.

Just know little ones, that your whole family misses you and loves you and I’ll still hold you one day.  It will just be in Heaven instead of here on Earth.  Rest in peace sweet angels.   I know I’m not alone in saying that, I love you, and I will not forget you.

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Tight spaces August 28, 2012

Filed under: Non-Scale Victories — fitformyprinces @ 1:48 pm

When my oldest son turned one we bought him this play house.  It remained a favorite toy of his until probably the last 6 months or so (right around when he turned 3, which is the upper limit of the manufacturer recommendation).  Now his 14 month old brother loves to play with it.  In the approximately 2 1/2 years that we have had this toy, I have never been able to squeeze myself through the door opening.  I decided to give it a try today and …… I made it.  I didn’t even have to suck anything in.  Now granted, I more or less slithered through on my tummy, but anyone in an adult sized body would have to do that since it is meant for 1-3 year olds.

I just love that I can fully play with my kids now, not just chase them around, but through, the play house too.  And that is better than any number on a scale.

 

 

Blessings August 27, 2012

Filed under: General musings — fitformyprinces @ 2:35 pm

Sorry I have been neglecting this blog.  I swear I’m busier now that I’m staying at home than I was working full time.  Somedays it would be nice to add a few hours to the day, however, since I’d have to spend those extra hours chasing the kids around I still wouldn’t get anything extra done.  : )

I’ve also been having some woe is me time lately.  I’ve been struggling with feeling underappreciated, only getting to see my husband a couple weekends a month, and just the general financial problems with trying to sell a house in this economy.  Even though I’m generally a positive person, it’s been hard not to feel negative about all these situations.  But then I hear of things that family, friends, or random strangers are going through and it really brings me back around to how blessed I really am.

1. I have two healthy handsome little boys.  Really there is no greater blessing than this as far as I’m concerned.  I know many people who have struggled with infertility, some who have had pregnancy losses (multiple losses in some cases), and some who are currently having issues with their pregnancies that could result in losses (one is twins).  The fact that I’ve been able to conceive my two children without problem, having very easy pregnancies, and have two completely healthy children is miraculous to me.  I thank God each and every day for the gift of them in my life.

2. My husband (for the most part) is healthy.  I can’t say he is 100% healthy because he has had some health stuff going on, but nothing that is life threatening in any way.  I can’t say that for everyone I know.  A girl I went to high school with lost her husband earlier this year.  I hear stories on the news all the time of husbands or wives who lose a spouse.

3. My parents (again for the most part) are healthy.  I’m nearly 35 years old and not ready yet to say goodbye so I’m very fortunate that they are presently healthy.  I have to say for the most part because my Dad did have a heart attack in 1996 when he was 48 years old, but since then he has incorporated a healthy lifestyle and is going strong.  Mom was diagnosed with diabetes 10 years ago or so but lost about 50 pounds and has completely reversed it.  I’d say compared to some people I know at their age (yes Mom and Dad, I’m outing you as both turning 65 this year), I’d say they’re healthy.  Having them alive and well is a huge blessing because they’re not only my parents, but my friends as well.  I cherish their advice and l love seeing them play with my kids.

4. My in-laws are still around.  Since my mother-in-law is still suffering so much after her stroke I can’t say that they are healthy, but considering we weren’t sure she was going to make it in July 2011 when she had the stroke it’s just a blessing that they are still here.

5. I am healthy.  Now I go to get a physical done on this Friday so who knows, I could get told I have some horrible disease then, but as of today I feel completely healthy.  It’s a blessing to have good enough health to spend time with my kids, to play hard with them, and to be able to go out and live life.  That same girl I went to high school with who lost her husband earlier in the year, is currently fighting for her life after being diagnosed with cancer just a few weeks after her husband unexpectedly passed away.

6. I have a roof over my head and food in my pantry.  I don’t have to fear that my children will go hungry or be unsafe.  This sadly isn’t the case for thousands (probably millions) of untold people around the world.

And there are many many many more things for which I have been Blessed but those are the most important and most relevant to a blog about healthy living.  When I reflect back on those things for which I have been Blessed, it definitely makes it easier to deal with those things that had been getting me down.  In other words, I would gladly feel underappreciated every single day if it meant that all my loved ones were healthy.  I’d take financial hardship anyday and have my family intact.

I think more people should focus more on what they have, rather than what they don’t have.  The world would definitely be a nicer place if that happened.

What is your greatest Blessing today?

 

Dead Last Finish August 10, 2012

Filed under: General musings — fitformyprinces @ 11:28 pm
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I just finished watching the women’s 1500M final race that aired on tonight’s Olympic coverage. Just as the last lap of the race started, one of the American runners (Morgan Uceny) tripped and fell down. She then proceeded to kneel on the track while bawling and punching the track. While it was heartbreaking to watch her dreams be crushed, I couldn’t help but be extremely disappointed and appalled at her behavior. Yes her dream of medaling was over and that can be devastating to many people, but instead of having a temper tantrum on the track, it would have shown good sportsmanship and maturity if she had instead gotten up and attempted to even finish her race. She completely missed out on an opportunity to inspire people. A dead last finish is so much better than a did not finish. What a shame and a waste. The good as I see it, is that my 3 year old was watching it with me and I was able to tell him that if he ever falls down while competing, that it’s important for him to get up and finish.

I’ve been a dead last finisher before. I ran cross country in 7th grade and in my first meet I finished dead last. In fact the next person ahead of me finished several minutes ahead of me. It was tremendously embarrassing to me personally, however, at the end of the year my teammates voted me team captain, basically because they said I gave it my all and that was inspiring. Sometimes the most inspiring performances are not those by the winners, but by those who won’t give up.

 

Can’t is a choice August 9, 2012

Filed under: Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 10:42 pm

My Dad told me once that having children was a very humbling experience, because you get frustrated with how they are behaving and then realize that those negative traits came from yourself.  I didn’t quite get it at the time since I was a very young adult when he said them, however now that I have kids of my own I can definitely see the wisdom in those words.

I have struggled for years with the “I can’ts”  I can’t do this, I can’t do that.  Ironically, not on major stuff.  I’ll set really lofty goals for myself and work hard to achieve them (like running that marathon back in 2007).  But my inner demon will convince me on smaller things that I can’t do it and so I stop.

Each morning the boys and I take the dog on a walk.  Well, really it’s more me taking everyone on a walk.  The boys are strapped in the double jogging stroller and I’m also holding onto the dog’s leash when we go.  Well on this particular morning we were about 4 blocks from my in-laws house when it started to rain.  I started heading back once it started to drizzle and when that got heavier I started to run.  I haven’t run at all since I finished C25K last fall and since the weight has come back on it’s not exactly an easy task to do while pushing about 90 pounds in the stoller (30 pounds of stroller, 40 pounds of “C”, and 20 pounds of “B”).  I made it about 2 blocks before I needed a breather.  Once I started walking, “C” said, “Run, Mommy!” and I said “I can’t”.  Then I realized what I had done and I knew that was not a legacy I wanted to pass onto my son so I told him that Mommy was wrong, that can’t was a choice and I started running again and didn’t stop until I made it to the driveway.

See I had two options that morning, (1) believe the ‘can’t’ and keep walking or (2) do it and show the ‘can’t’ who’s boss.  I choose #2.  And hopefully through my lead, my children will choose 2 also.

 

A lesson to pass on….. August 1, 2012

Filed under: General musings,Motivation — fitformyprinces @ 11:38 pm

I’ve been very blessed in my life to never really know hunger.  Now, I know that a lot of that is due to sacrifices made by my parents to ensure my needs were met.  I know my Mom has mentioned that when we were really little that she had to sell things to make ends meet.  I would never say that my childhood was privileged from a financial point of view, but I’d argue that the poor in America are substantially better off than in the rest of the world.

I remember visiting my Grandparents when I was really young and Grandma would fill our plates with spaghetti.  It didn’t matter that my sister and I were 4 and 2 years old.  We got a full plate just like all the adults….and we were expected to finish it too.  My Grandma insisted that our plates be cleaned before we could get up.  So we finished.  And my 2 year old sister promptly vomited the spaghetti up onto the floor.  Her tiny stomach could just not handle that much food.

Too often, we teach our children that they must clean their plates before they can leave the table or have dessert.  Now I get the point.  I have a devious persistent 3 year old who would like nothing more than to eat dessert and no ‘real’ food.  And I find myself falling into the same trap alot by insisting that he finish his main course before moving onto eat a fruit snack or ice cream or something like that.

One thing I’ve learned along the way is that it’s ok to throw something away.  I mean, would you rather the junk be in the garbage or in your body?  Don’t get me wrong, as a stay-at-home Mom finances are much tighter than they were when I was working and I’m not wasteful with food at all.  But, if I pull something out to eat and a partial serving satisfies,  it is ok for me to toss the rest (assuming I can’t salvage it to keep for later).

Tonight I started teaching that lesson to ‘C’.  I took the boys to our local county fair tonight and after C went on a lot of fun rides he was wanting ice cream (and why not).  So being the indulging loving Mom that I am, I bought a single scoop of vanilla with rainbow sprinkles (the most important part).  I stood there with the baby on my back for over 20 minutes as he slowly ate this scoop of ice cream.  Then I told him he had 10 minutes left and he would have to throw out whatever he didn’t finish.  To my surprise, 5 minutes later (and only half the cup eaten) he declared that he was all done, got up, and put the bowl in the trash.  I was so proud of my little guy.  I’m hoping that he can remember this so that he won’t face the same weight issues in his life that I have faced so far.

 

Hello again….. July 21, 2012

Filed under: General musings — fitformyprinces @ 3:59 pm

Wow … talk about a long break from blogging.  November 2011?  Very bad for me.

It just goes to show you how true it is that a working Mom is a hugely busy Mom.  When I returned to work after my maternity leave in October I pretty much fell off the face of blogging earth.  Life has certainly changed a lot in the past, what 8 months?

The good:  My family is all in good health.  The ‘princes’ are now 3 1/2 and 1.  “C” is pretty much nearly potty trained (insert the Hallelujah chorus) and “B” runs around like a pro.  Also I’m now a stay at home Mom (cue up the chorus again).  Staying at home with my boys has been a lifelong dream of mine and I am so lucky and Blessed to be able to be there for my kids.

The bad:  I’m not living with my husband anymore.  No we’re not ‘separated’ in the sense that troubled couples do that.  However, in order to free me up to stay at home, my husband accepted a new job.  We currently have two houses on the market (PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SELL!) and so he has signed a year’s lease in a small apartment that is just not suited to our size family (two adults, two kids, two cats, and a large breed dog).  So where are the princes and I?  We’ve moved in with my in-laws.  Yes, I know I have this listed under ‘the bad’.  They’re not bad, just the whole thought that I’m in my mid-30’s now and living with ‘Mom and Dad’ again.  Sigh.  Not how I planned for my life to go at all.  However, a couple of years ago when my husband was entertaining another job option I told him that I would live anywhere if it meant I could be a stay at home Mom.  I never in my wildest dreams (or worst nightmares) thought it would mean living with his parents and not with him.  But overall it’s a win-win for us.  We get to save money (once these houses sell) so we can have a decent down payment for a new home in his new job location (Raleigh NC) and I’m here to help my in-laws since my Mother-in-law came home from the rehab center on June 1st after having her stroke just over a year ago.  I cook, do some light cleaning, and help with transferring my MIL when needed.

The ugly:  Blogging wasn’t really the only thing I quit last November.  I pretty much quit all exercising and watching what I ate.  For several months.  And I gained all the weight I’d lost back plus another 18 pounds.  : (   I started back at exercising and eating well on July 1st and weighed in at 215 pounds.  That’s nearly what I weighed when I was in my third trimester with each of my pregnancies.  How embarrassing.

But …. better to turn around and start working in the right direction than saying what the hell and continuing on my path of self-destruction.  I do have to set an example for my kids and I want to be able to play with them.  And I’m not able to do either well at over 200 pounds.  Luckily here I am just 3 weeks later and I’ve already lost 11 pounds (plus whatever I lost this week …. weigh in day is tomorrow) and I can feel my energy level higher than it has been in awhile.

As far as exercising goes I restarted the Firm Express system and have one week left.  I neglected to take before shots (since I’m living alone now and don’t really feel like asking my father-in-law to photograph my fatness in a bathing suit) but I did take measurements.  I’m hoping that I’ll have lost 15 pounds total by the time this is done.  I definitely want to re-do the 60 Day Slimdown by Lindsay Brin along with Couch to 5K that I did last summer, but since my treadmill did not follow me to the in-laws I’ll have to do all my runs outdoors….with kids in the double jogger.  So for my sake, and their’s I”m going to wait on doing that until the summer weather cools down a smidge.